The importance of embracing differences and different experiences 

February is Black History Month, an important time to recognize the contributions and remember the hardships endured by generations of African Americans. Appreciating diversity and what makes us each unique remains an integral part of First Tee’s DNA year-round.  

“When you bring together people with different perspectives and different experiences, the whole becomes stronger than the sum of its parts,” said Pepper Peete, whose career in golf began more than two decades ago when she established the men’s team at Edward Waters College, an HBCU in Jacksonville, Florida. Peete now helps lead culture and inclusion efforts at First Tee headquarters. 

Access for All 

First Tee has always been committed to reaching kids from all backgrounds and making sure they feel included in our programming. At First Tee we commit to: 

  • Appreciating what makes us different. 
  • Providing everyone ​with what they need ​to succeed, knowing that our needs and challenges may differ. 
  • Creating space that makes every individual feel like they belong and can see themselves reflected.​ 

Collaborating with others – including those who are different from you – is a Key Commitment at First Tee, and it means showing respect, kindness and care for everyone. Regardless of race, ethnicity, gender, ability, sexual orientation or lived experience, we’re all unique.  

Here are some ways kids can get more comfortable learning about and from others. 

A-L-R is a tool for learning about others 

First Tee coaches introduce the concept of appreciating diversity by explaining that people differ in many ways and are similar in other ways, and we all have strengths and weaknesses. It is important for kids and teens to understand, accept and appreciate their own strengths and weaknesses, but it is equally important they do the same with others. 

Engaging others in conversation doesn’t always come naturally to children, but it can be one of the best ways to form meaningful connections across perceived barriers. A-L-R is a strategy we teach at First Tee. 

  • Ask questions: Invite your child to ask questions to discover more about a person’s background and past experiences, which might provide insight into who they are today and the commonalities they share. 
  • Listen to understand: Introduce active listening by encouraging your child to focus on what others are saying rather than thinking about what to say next. 
  • Reflect and respond: Invite your child to show how they were listening by responding with a thoughtful question or sharing your own thoughts or feelings on the topic at hand.  

Through this exercise, kids might learn they share common interests with someone who looks or sounds different to them. 

Don’t forget that in addition to learning about others, preteens are often grappling with and discovering their own identities. If your family positions diversity as an asset, your child might feel more comfortable being themself.  

Exposing your child to food, music or books from other cultures can help them see the commonalities we share and appreciate that our differences make the world a richer place. You can also discuss the diversity that exists within your own family or community to show that diversity is everywhere, including the golf space. 

“Golf has given me an opportunity to go places I never would have been able to go and meet people I never would have been able to meet,” said Peete, who was married to Calvin Peete, one of the most successful Black professional golfers in history. “I think golf can open up unexpected doors.” 

A lifelong golfer and mother to two daughters who played golf at HBCUs, Peete has seen the sport become more accessible, especially to women, and she believes the golf course is a perfect place to break down barriers. “You get to meet so many different people through golf,” Peete said. 

NTX Giving Day: Thursday, Sept 21

Give with purpose.

Amazon presents the Communities Foundation of Texas 2023 North Texas Giving Day coming Thursday, September 21!

This is the largest single day of giving in the metroplex and one that supports hundreds of non-profits in our area. We are proud to be partnering with the Communities Foundation of Texas once again for this amazing day of generosity!

Please consider joining us on this day with a gift to our Giving Day page and help us raise funds to support that many competitive and non-competitive opportunities offered to our participants! These opportunities provide valuable experiences that promote self-reliance, confidence, perseverance and judgment. Help us keep these opportunities free or low-cost to our families!

FORE! the Kids Charity Golf Outing – Friday, June 9th

FORE! the Kids is back! Join us for a unique team-shamble event out at Squaw Creek Golf Course on Friday, June 9th presented by Gilchrist Automotive! Several chances to win prizes with on-course games and plenty of sponsorship opportunities available! Check it out on our FORE! the Kids page!

Carter Bonas wants everyone to feel like they belong on the course 

Carter Bonas has already broken through in the business world, and he’s just 12. His love of golf helped inspire his company, Spectrum Golf. 

The golf brand got its name because Carter is on the autism spectrum. The company was created to address an issue he faced, turning a challenge into an opportunity. 

“Me and my mom were spending lots of money on clothes that were supposed to be comfortable but weren’t because I have skin sensitivity,” explained the First Tee – Florida Gold Coast participant.  

“I started Spectrum Golf because I wanted other people to be comfortable too.” 

The brand sells golf attire and accessories, which have been displayed at the PGA Show in Orlando, an industry standard event. Carter has been interviewed by Golf Channel, Golf Digest and more about his company. 

It’s impossible for Carter to choose a favorite memory from his time as a golfer. “They’re all super amazing,” Carter said.  

He’s walked the course with Ernie Els at the Chubb Classic in Naples, Florida, chipped with PGA Champions Tour player Alex Cejka and even met basketball star Steph Curry. Last year Curry was honored as Sports Illustrated’s Sports Person of the Year, while Carter was named Sports Kid of the Year

Carter has big goals for his company, ultimately aiming to own a retail store and collaborate with other major brands. Playing on the PGA TOUR isn’t out of the question either, he said. 

Carter loves the sport because he’s able to play on a team while still controlling the outcome of his round – whether good or bad. He also loves spending time in nature, he said. 

Carter began playing golf after struggling to find another sport that fit.  

During Autism Awareness Month, his message to others on the spectrum: “If you’re considering golf it takes lots of patience and practice, and you always need to stay positive,” he said. 

Carter and his family have faced their own set of challenges when it comes to managing a new business. They had to table Spectrum Vitamin Water due to a manufacturing issue. “Carter only wants to sell products he loves,” said his mother, Dr. Thelma Tennie. But after finding a new producer, the vitamin water could be back on the market this year. 

Seeing his mom – who owns a private therapy practice – helped inspire Carter to become an entrepreneur, he explained. And he’s also passionate about giving back. He recently launched a nonprofit, and he serves as a golf coach and motivational speaker for schools and events. 

Like First Tee, Carter is dedicated to growing the sport of golf and showing that anyone can play. Carter and his mom were drawn to First Tee’s values, and he’s been participating with the Florida Gold Coast chapter in Fort Lauderdale for about a year. 

“It’s been super awesome,” Carter said. 

Spotlight Story: Hayes & Mr. Hogan

There is a long-tenured history of Mr. Ben Hogan in Fort Worth. He has inspired so many young men and women through his perseverance and ability to never give up. He particularly inspired one young man in our First Tee chapter, Hayes Richardson. Hayes has been a participant with us since he was 6 years old and has heard the story of Mr. Hogan many times while attending classes with us. Hayes took it upon himself to write a book report on Mr. Hogan. 

Hayes has an outstanding record in school and loves to participate in every class he is a part of. His coaches can’t say enough nice things about him. Hayes, like Mr. Hogan, inspires others while he is in a class by encouraging them even when things might not go his way.

“I have never seen a time when Hayes doesn’t have a smile on his face” – Coach Travis

Hayes is a great role model for kids his own age, he sets the standard for every class he is in and others follow! Hayes even sometimes teaches his coaches more than we can teach him!

Written by: Coach Travis Jones

Women’s History Month: How Jayda Dookie is changing the game 

Jayda Dookie didn’t quite know what she was getting into when her high school coach reached out about a caddying opportunity at Seminole Golf Club. 

Ranked the top course in Florida for the last 35 years by Golf Digest, the Club has a rich history of hosting the corporate elite along with a couple of high-profile events in the past. But Jayda was about to make her own history. When Jayda, a First Tee – Florida Gold Coast participant, signed on as caddy, she was unaware that she would become the first female caddy in the history of the storied club. As a freshman, she was also the youngest caddy in the yard when she took the job four years ago. 

“A lot of the caddies were excited to see a girl come and do this job, not only because you have to engage with a lot of important people, but it’s also a physical job,” she explained. “I quicky had to get out my shell. I had to make sure my players were comfortable, and I definitely only succeeded because of the mentors I had in the caddy yard.” 

She said planning ahead is an important part of caddying at Seminole: “First we have to forecaddie. We must get to the ball before the players do to get all the numbers like distance from the hole, wind speed and direction. At Seminole, we really place an emphasis on pace of play, and the only way we’re able to do that is if our caddies are two steps ahead of our players,” she said. 

Jayda said it was intimidating to start her job at Seminole, but now she loves it because of the network she’s forged. 

“I have learned so much through the other caddies and members,” she said. “Many are prominent CEOs and business leaders, and it’s good for me to watch how business deals are negotiated the golf course.” 

That’s especially true since Jayda plans to have a career in international business – even though she’ll be sad to leave Seminole when she attends college in the fall. “I’m definitely going to miss it, but I know there’s an invitation extended for me to come back because they’ve become my second family now,” she said. 

Jayda credits First Tee’s John Deere Drive Your Future Academy with helping her select her future career path. She attended the event in San Francisco last summer. “It was amazing to see girls from all over the country gather to learn about business and leadership and play golf,” she said. “We didn’t know each other at first but by the end we all felt like family.” 

Jayda said First Tee has not only given her lots of impactful opportunities – including a recent behind-the-scenes visit to The Honda Classic in Palm Beach Gardens – but also a supportive community. 

“I’m probably not going to remember all the stress and heartbreaks of different tournaments but I’m definitely going to remember the people and the family that has gathered around me thanks to golf.” 

Jayda was recently named Participant of the Year by First Tee – Florida Gold Coast. 

She credits the sport with teaching her discipline and giving her confidence and recommends golf for any girls who are looking for a new hobby. “I think they should definitely do it,” she said. “Golf is a sport you can play for life. Golf gives you a community and opportunities and people to lean on if you ever need help.” 

Volunteer Highlight: The Farmer Family

Volunteer Highlights: The Farmer Family

The Farmer Family has been involved in First Tee Programs consistently for many years now. They live in Granbury and drive up on Saturdays to do programming at Squaw Creek. Since Robert Farmer was always in attendance he asked if he could be a volunteer coach. He has been volunteering now at Squaw Creek for over 4 years. Coach Robert played college football at Notre Dame and played for the New York Jets after college for a season in 1999.

“As a parent I appreciate the life lessons the children learn respect for yourself, respect your surroundings, and respect for others. These basic tenets will follow them in various situations through their journey in life. Additionally, First Tee has established a very safe environment for children to share, grow, and lead within their weekly classes. Another important aspect while learning the game and rules of golf, it allows children exposure to more experiences and people they would not necessarily meet in their everyday lives. First Tee is an important part of our family and the relationships we foster are far reaching.

As a coach it gives me the opportunity to interact with my children and teenagers in a social setting to support their development. Coaching enables me to learn and share in positive way to help others grow and learn. The game of golf allows each person to challenge themselves and compete against their personal best and coaching children up to meet those mental challenges is what I enjoy most. Coaching up children to have the right mental process and thoughts when faced with adversity on the golf course can translate into making better decisions in life, process thinking. Lastly, coaching challenges me every week because you want to give them the answers however coaches need to guide children to find their answers and when you share in the eureka moment with children, it is a great feeling.”

Coach Robert

Coach Robert has attended all the trainings to become a level 1 trained coach and plans on leading classes at Squaw Creek this Spring. His two oldest sons also participate in PGA Jr. League and Coach Robert helps as one of the coaches on-site every other Saturday. His family comes to Squaw Creek in the mornings on these PGA Jr. League days and leave at dark. He has 3 boys and girl who are all involved in our programs.

We are so grateful for Coach Robert’s time and effort devoted to our program and the kids in it!

Written by Coach Charleton “Chuck” Dechert